you are what you excrete

Last week I went to a 5-day training course for detox acupuncture and the trainer guy said "you are what you excrete"...referring to healthy-eating but also elimination of emotional baggage etc important for maintaining emotional wellbeing.

The course revolved around the Chinese philosophy of the Five Elements and although much of that feng shui gumph goes against Christianity, I found the personality traits within the Five Elements an interesting read (being into Psychology, i'm big on personality things :P) I cant remb most of it, but i remb being able to relate a lot to what was written about 'Earth' personality types.....people who care a lot about others, often at the sacrifice of themselves. The drawback of such characters is proneness to stress and anxiety, particularly when they feel unsupported by others.

In the majority of situations I am in, I dont feel I can be truly open & honest, particularly becoz people around me cant handle the truth of whats really goin on in my mind & heart...
I dont think it requires someone who has "been there done that" to be a good listener or someone whom i'd open up to...its not about them having advice to give & it not about them knowing what the right thing to say is, its about listening, acknowledging & accepting my experience & feelings FIRST! Then mayb offer advice/opinion/whatver....
Theres nothing worse than thinking you can talk to someone just for them to turn round and dismiss your feelings &/or decisions...worse still, tell you you're being stoopit or its your own fault! :O The real important key to counselling is validation of the person's feelings!

Its annoying that people expect you to listen to them rant but if/when you need to be heard, it often gets dismissed...

I'm finding more & more that my "Love Language" of Quality Time & Quality Conversations etc is coming thru.....mayb its bcoz i've started working so time is precious....i find myself feeling big random gatherings & superficial chats are kinda pointless...why not get down to some real stuff eh? Life is too short for so much faffing around, walking on egg shells and all that!

So yeh back to the original quote.....although elimination of emotional stuff is important, i've also learnt for myself, that talking to many people often causes myself more harm than good. I feel blessed to know there are a few jewels out there who have gotten to know me well enough to notice & care when i'm stressed out &/or not being myself etc :) As for the rest, its my bad for feeling kinda hurt/disappointed/whatever coz the reality is, your response/opinion doesnt matter to me anyway!

- Missing my Princess a lot!